Tip of the Week
Conflict and Agreement
When dealing with a conflict situation, first focus on your areas of agreement. For example, assume someone in another department is upset with the speed at which your department responds to his requests for information. He may convey. “You guys never seem to get back to us with the information we request.” Assuming that there is some truth to the criticism, you might respond, “It’s true that the revenue and cost projections you requested several weeks ago aren’t ready.” Then, let the critic respond. In other words, focus on restating a fact, rather than evaluating, justifying or explaining.
So What?
This approach helps diffuse the conflict. Additionally, it communicates that you’re listening and it gives you time to think so you’re better able to respond to the criticism rather than act defensively.